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Laddie, losses, and maybe a few random Tuesday thoughts

Laddie and friends have arrived at Joel’s Gulch. Nothing but the bare notice so far, since it was late when they got there.

But all who made it happen can be proud of themselves.

I’m sure we’ll be hearing fun updates soon.

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Good news is most welcome in a summer that’s had too much of the other kind.

The week MamaLiberty died, I learned a local acquaintance had also departed the world. S was in his early 60s when he died of cancer.

I never knew S well, but I’d known him for decades and done business with him. He was an independent logger and as kind and decent a man as you could ever know — the classic “give you the shirt off his back” guy.

Even before the big timber companies began closing their woods to We the Peasants, S’s lands were my favorite place to walk. Our forests are strictly utilitarian. They’re commercial farms. Nobody grooms them to be pretty. But S did. He thinned his trees with an eye to appearance, as well as better growth. The edges of the roads running though his property were mown grass. He loved his woods. If you knew where to look you could find ponds and picnic tables and campfire circles.

Although he hated when teenagers used and abused his land, he long ago gave me permission to walk my dogs where I would, even on his private side roads.

He dreamed of someday building a house out there, private and way off grid. About two years before he died, he began.

I never saw what he built (the building permit posted at the road said just a pole building, but I believe his son lives out there at least part time), because as construction commenced, a keep out sign went up, and I never so much as stepped past that signpost, even though some of the very best of his beautiful land was down that side road.

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(Funny — and grand — how in a decent world a mere two words, “No trespassing,” are holy writ.)

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This weekend I stopped at the lumberyard to buy sand for the block patio and the “wrong” people were there.

Well, the people were right, as usual, but there at the wrong time.

Yes, I have schedules of the main lumberyard guys memorized, because they’re founts of construction knowledge and each has his own specialties. This guy knows plumbing, another knows concrete or electrical or garden tech. If I need to talk to that guy I know when he’ll be there. Or not.

If I have a tough finishing question, I don’t go in on weekends because the #1 paint guy doesn’t work then. But there he was, upsetting the balance of the lumberyard universe.

“What are you doing here?”

He drew me down a side aisle and told me that W had just been fired and that he was sharing bits of W’s schedule with four other men.

Now, in plenty of businesses, employees come and go. Not this business. Oh sure, the outside yard guys or the young women in the back room are sometimes kids holding jobs between high school and college. Or occasionally the lumberyard hires some construction guy who’s sold his business or gone bust and doesn’t know what to do next. Then he moves on.

But W had been around forever. Heck, the paint guy’s been there forever, and W’s the person who hired him. W was one of the store managers. He was the window guy, the know-everything-about-metal guy, the know-every-supplier-in-the-county guy, and probably the most knowledgeable and best problem-solving guy in general.

He was also they guy whose great-granddad-the-bootlegging-fugitive built my house.

“W fired? Why???”

I’m almost sorry I asked. As I was shocked but not completely surprised to learn, great-granddad’s genes ran strong in this one. It turned out they’d been loyally tolerating and helping him through years of random absences, fruitless rehab, and all the things caring friends and employers go through for alcoholics before giving up.

I’d noticed I’d hardly seen W at all this summer but I thought it was just me. Or that because it’s a slow year for them, they’d given him time off. Turns out he’d been descending into the worst of the worst — blackouts, trips to the emergency room, DT’s, and making every lame, dysfunctional excuse in the book to stay home drinking or going home to drink during the day. So after patient decades, they fired him.

Having W gone was akin to having a face erased from Mt. Rushmore.

And I now look back at all my joking references to him about great-granddad Jim Beam and his friend Jack Daniel nipping at their product while building Ye Olde Wreck. And I cringe just a little.

W isn’t dead, though it seems likely he won’t “make old bones,” as they used to say in the olden days. But his absence almost feels like a death, and it throws our little small-town universe out of kilter.

7 Comments

  1. Comrade X
    Comrade X August 14, 2018 11:21 am

    Making people face reality ain’t always bad, maybe he hits the bottom and survives to rise again a better man, the other choice ain’t good at all.

    Time will tell.

  2. Claire
    Claire August 14, 2018 1:54 pm

    Agreed, Comrade X. I hope that happens with R (’cause you’re right about the other choices being not so good). People close to him don’t think this will be his “hitting bottom” moment, though. Which is pretty scary.

  3. Comrade X
    Comrade X August 14, 2018 2:48 pm

    I may sound callus on this because I’ve been there with someone I loved, I finally decided that I couldn’t help him any more after trying very hard and my helping may have been a hindrance in his recovery so I focused on getting others he could hurt out of his way and just let him fall on his own, which he did, and he then got up and fell again over and over, up & down until his death.

    I can say he had some happy moments before it was all over but his life was his creation. It is too bad people choose to live that way, but it is their choice.

  4. Mike
    Mike August 14, 2018 8:21 pm

    For W to have been terminated it must have been serious. The series of hoops that have to be jumped through by an employer are long ones. If it was anything like the protocols that are in place where I once worked, he had more than a few chances from counseling right up to rehab. In the end there is only so much that can be done.

    I was just over at TUATK looking at photos of the new gulch dog happily doing doggy things. While I don’t like how it arose, I’m happy that Joel has another four legged companion. I hope they both have a lot of good times together.

  5. Ron Johnson
    Ron Johnson August 15, 2018 3:25 am

    I used to accompany a relative to AA meetings. I met many recovering alcoholics and heard their stories, beginning with “Hi, I’m_____ and I’m an alcoholic”. The usual pattern of their lives was social drinking, binge drinking, daily drinking, loss of careers, loss of loved ones, then the figurative gutter. Someone got them to go to an AA meeting, and they began their road to recovery.

    My relative stayed on the road, and from the day he joined AA, he never touched another drink. Over 30 years. But….and here’s the ugly truth…few of the people I met at those meetings, who gave tear-filled testimony’s to the power of alcohol over their lives, stayed sober. Most of them went back to the bottle, including my relative’s sponsor. Some died alone with bottle in hand.

    It’s a terrible thing to watch. Such a waste. Intervention sometimes works, usually not.

  6. firstdouglas
    firstdouglas August 15, 2018 5:03 am

    Yep, grand is that world where a certain two words are holy writ..

  7. fred
    fred August 15, 2018 12:26 pm

    LSD. Some day we may live to see it.

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